Personal Boundaries are an essential ingredient for safety, wellbeing and empowerment. They clue us onto behaviour that might be or is harmful and it's a helpful approach in life coaching and counselling to help clients identify and set up healthy personal boundaries at home and in work. Boundaries give one a sense of agency over their feelings, thoughts, actions and physical space and helps protect your self-esteem, your emotional energy and empowerment.
Learning to protect your boundaries takes practice and I have found in Life Coaching that identifying when boundaries are challenged is a good start. Sometimes you can't know your boundary until someone has stepped over it. But try to advocate for yourself and practice self-compassion, to listen and act upon your boundaries with skill. Healthy boundaries helps improve your relationships and a find a balance between being too rigid or flexible is the key. After all healthy boundaries help you learn to be vulnerable and grow stronger.
Here's some tips on setting healthy boundaries:
As a Mindfulness-Based Life Coach a large focus of my private practice and workplace sessions are on helping people improve their intimate relationship, social life and/or workplace relationships. Personal boundary work is really effective for helping navigate conflict and other relationship issues. Self-awareness, social awareness and social responsibility can only arise with carefully identifying and attending to your personal boundaries and understanding and respecting others boundaries too.
If someone is continuously pushing your personal boundaries please protect yourself and remove yourself from them and understand this is a red flag for abuse and harmful activity. Personal boundary setting does not need to be like a wall to keep others from connecting genuinely with you but rather it can help make those connections authentic and sustainable. Don't worry if you get it wrong or stumble; being vulnerable enough to make mistakes means you're on the developmental and growth pathway and it's just a matter of practice makes perfect. For more on coaching visit our website.